Feelings and Relationships

From the minute you know you are pregnant things begin to change-feelings about yourself, about the baby, about your future. Your relationship changes- with your partner, other children and also with parents and friends. Adjusting to these changes isn't always easy but there are plenty of ways you can address your feelings.

 

Hormonal changes which are normal are responsible for much of the tiredness and nausea that some women feel in early pregnancy. They often account for emotional feelings and you may find you cry more easily and loose your temper more often. This maybe your first baby and you and your partner will have very different feelings and it's important you share them with each other. Don't let your pregnancy take over your life, it's important to keep doing the things you enjoy. You can discuss with your midwife any worries or concerns you or your partner may have. She can advise you or refer you to someone who can help. Many couples worry as to whether it is safe to have sex during pregnancy. There is no physical reason why you shouldn't continue to have intercourse throughout your pregnancy. In some women, later in their pregnancy, orgasm or intercourse can set off contractions. You will feel the muscles of your womb go hard. There is no need to panic as this is perfectly normal and if you lie quietly the contractions will pass. Although sex is safe it can be uncomfortable and you may need to try different positions.

 

One practical question you and your partner will need to discuss is how you will cope with labour and whether he wants to be there.

You will probably be inundated with lots of advice and information from family and friends, who are all trying to help. It's important that you and your partner decide what is best for you.

If you are pregnant and on your own it's even more important that there are people with whom you can share your feelings and who can offer you support. You may find it encouraging to meet other mothers who have gone through pregnancy on their own who can offer advice and information.